University or TAFE is an exciting chapter in your life. There is no doubt about that. It is time to try something new and experience new things that you never have a chance to do so in high schools. You can set up many goals to achieve as well. Moreover, if one of your goals is to find a boyfriend or girlfriend in college, this article is for you.
Here are a few tips that can help you find your other half on campus:
Tip 1: Widen Your Circle
The more people you know, the better chance you have in finding your other half on campus. Here are some of the things that you can do to widen your circle of friends and acquaintances:
- Join a club:
If you want to find a boyfriend or a girlfriend who has something in common with you, it is a good idea to join a club. In college, there are quite a few clubs founded and run by people who have an interest in common, such as music, movies, books or sports. Some clubs are also a small society for people coming from the same country or region to meet. If you want to find a girlfriend or a boyfriend coming from your same country, especially when you are an international student in Australia, joining a club of your country will help you meet more people from different faculties.
You can also join meet-up groups of the community where you live. These meet-up groups are the places for you to meet people of similar interests who do not necessarily go to the same college as you.
Even when you could not find your girlfriend or boyfriend in the club that you join, participating in a club helps you meet more people and widen your circle, which can lead to new relationships.
Get a job
Many people have a job while they are studying. Moreover, if you want to earn extra money as well, it is a win-win case for you. When you work with someone, you have to communicate with him or her a lot. And this could lead to a great relationship.
Another way for you to make more friends and know more people is attending parties and social events. The more times you go to these social events, the more people you know. The more people you know, the more parties and social events you are invited. You know more people who might introduce you to your other half. Alternatively, you can meet your other half through these parties and social events as well.
Tip 2: Study In Various Places
I know many people who like studying at home or inside their dorm, thinking that this is the place where they are most focused. However, if you really want to find a girlfriend or boyfriend, it is time to start looking around. Don’t just stay inside. Instead, find other places where you can both study and look for opportunities to meet your other half.
Go to study in the library, at a coffee shop, or in the park. You don’t have to focus when studying in these places fully. You can take out light reading materials or simple assignments to finish in these places. After all, your main purpose of studying in these places is not about really all about studying.
Tip 3: Show That You Are Available
When you notice someone approach you, smile and make friendly eye contact. You can make a signal by smiling and making eye contacts to someone you like. Then go alone for a few minutes. If they like you, they will notice your signal and approach you.
It is ideal if you join a meeting and have someone as a wing to accompany you. However, don’t go with so many people. Guys or girls won’t approach you if you are in a big group as they would feel intimidated.
You can also ask your friends to introduce you to someone who is also available.
Tip 4: Improve Your Pick-up Skills
I know that different people would have different ways to approach other people. Think about the way which is the best for you. Don’t copy other people’s approach. What work for other people might not work for you, given different situations and personality traits. Nevertheless, it is worth reading about how to establish a connection and win over people. There are plenty of good self-help books that help you get better at making friends and approaching people such as Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss or the old yet classic and informative How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
The thing that I want to mention that is that you should be confident in what you have and what you don’t have. Be who you are, and you will be able to find the right person who is right for you- not for somebody else.
Last but not least, don’t be desperate in finding the other half on campus. When you are desperate in finding one, you might make you look like a loser. And no one wants to date a loser at all.
As you can see, if you want to find your other half on campus, it is essential that you have a wide circle of friends and acquaintances where you can meet your girlfriend or boyfriend. You can join a club, get a job or attend social parties and events. Taking your study in public places is also another idea to help you know more people. Knowing how to show that you are available and improving your pick up skills are also two essential skills that can help you find your other half.
I hope all of these tips are useful for you to achieve your goal of getting a soulmate on campus.